Nursing and Single Parenthood?
Ok, I'm a single mum as the title says, my son is 18 months old and I'm 21, his dad isn't involved, and we're English. When he was born, I applied to study nursing in London (I live about two hours away so we'd move). To my amazement I was given an unconditional offer at one of the two top places in the country to do it. I ended up deferring that year as it was looking difficult to start it all then with my son so young. Then by the end of last year things were looking pretty impossible. I'd be working irregular shifts, including the odd very occasional nightshift, leading to massive childcare problems, I think the only way I could do it was if I had an au pair, which would mean needing an extra room which I don't know if I could afford. I'd be working many hours a day and then coming home and having to do more work and I was worrying I'd get no time with my son. And I'd be in London, and although it's my dream to move away and start a new life elsewhere and this is probably my only opportunity, the fact that I have a baby and no friends or family around there is a bit nervewracking. So I ended up declining my place, and now I'm studying an Open University degree in history from home, which is ok but not particularly inspiring if I'm honest, and I still live with my dad which is driving me slowly insane. However now they've been sending me welcome letters and I've just had an answerphone message asking if I'm still going to be attending in September, so they have obviously neglected to record the fact that I've withdrawn, so it feels like I've been given another opportunity. I need to ring back today or tomorrow and let them know and I just don't know what to do. Everything seems to be pointing against me doing it, but it just feels like I'm turning down a massive opportunity to study somewhere really good and be directed straight into a stable career. And this is my last chance, because in future years they are getting rid of the diploma in nursing, and I don't have the qualifications to get onto the degree. However I would not sacrifice my relationship with my son for anything in the world. But I really don't know if it's going to be as bad as I'm imagining. I also think that, even when I'm done studying, working as a nurse and being a single mother is going to mean I'm missing a lot of things for my son. His birthday is 3 days after Christmas so statistically I would miss at least one of these occasions every year, for example, and I hate the thought of him being stuck with relatives without me. Has anybody done this, or been close to anybody who has? Be completely honest with me - is it a viable option for a single parent, both the studying and the actual career? Or do I need to say goodbye to it and keep doing what I'm doing now?
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i can't say ive ever actually been given an opportunity such as you but i do know that ive held back a lot from moving to a new place and pursuing new things due to having kids. ive always thought i would take the chance if ever given an actual opportunity. my want to move away from where i live now and my dreams to get back into a career that i love are high but, as you stated, i have no family elsewhere and i often worry about the childcare issue. if i had a real reason to go id like to think that i would but i guess i just haven't been given a real reason yet. i do think that it would probably be a lot easier than i think and that we would be able to adjust and i would find a way to make things work, but since i have no real reason to ive just stuck with what i have here and what im doing now, hoping some day ill be given an opportunity to actually do what i want. as for your situation, i think you have definitely been given an extra opportunity that you should seriously consider. you have mentioned many times that you feel it is time to move out of your father's house and this would be the perfect reason/opportunity. plus, you get the chance at a career that you'll be really happy in. sure there will be hard times and sacrifices, but that comes with everything in life. it might be hard, but im sure you would find a way to make things work.
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Monday, October 28, 2013
Monday, October 14, 2013
Nursing and Single Parenthood
Nursing and Single Parenthood?
Ok, I'm a single mum as the title says, my son is 18 months old and I'm 21, his dad isn't involved, and we're English. When he was born, I applied to study nursing in London (I live about two hours away so we'd move). To my amazement I was given an unconditional offer at one of the two top places in the country to do it. I ended up deferring that year as it was looking difficult to start it all then with my son so young. Then by the end of last year things were looking pretty impossible. I'd be working irregular shifts, including the odd very occasional nightshift, leading to massive childcare problems, I think the only way I could do it was if I had an au pair, which would mean needing an extra room which I don't know if I could afford. I'd be working many hours a day and then coming home and having to do more work and I was worrying I'd get no time with my son. And I'd be in London, and although it's my dream to move away and start a new life elsewhere and this is probably my only opportunity, the fact that I have a baby and no friends or family around there is a bit nervewracking. So I ended up declining my place, and now I'm studying an Open University degree in history from home, which is ok but not particularly inspiring if I'm honest, and I still live with my dad which is driving me slowly insane. However now they've been sending me welcome letters and I've just had an answerphone message asking if I'm still going to be attending in September, so they have obviously neglected to record the fact that I've withdrawn, so it feels like I've been given another opportunity. I need to ring back today or tomorrow and let them know and I just don't know what to do. Everything seems to be pointing against me doing it, but it just feels like I'm turning down a massive opportunity to study somewhere really good and be directed straight into a stable career. And this is my last chance, because in future years they are getting rid of the diploma in nursing, and I don't have the qualifications to get onto the degree. However I would not sacrifice my relationship with my son for anything in the world. But I really don't know if it's going to be as bad as I'm imagining. I also think that, even when I'm done studying, working as a nurse and being a single mother is going to mean I'm missing a lot of things for my son. His birthday is 3 days after Christmas so statistically I would miss at least one of these occasions every year, for example, and I hate the thought of him being stuck with relatives without me. Has anybody done this, or been close to anybody who has? Be completely honest with me - is it a viable option for a single parent, both the studying and the actual career? Or do I need to say goodbye to it and keep doing what I'm doing now?
Parenting - 3 Answers
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I have a friend who went off to university and her daughter was around 10 months. No I'm not going to sit here and say it was easy to do because she also had many childcare issues. But you know what. Go for the open even at least. See what your options are. Also you could start looking around for childcare. You may be able to apply for tax credits to help towards childcare costs. But whats the harm in going to the open evening? You never know. This could be the opportunity you needed.
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I'm also a single mom and I think you should totally do this or you will forever regret it. I got pregnant with TWINS in my 1st year of college, gave birth to them 1 week after exams, went back for second year when they were 4 months old, graduated, worked for a year or so, went back to college for a different diploma when they were 2.5 years old, graduated a year later. I also work in a field that requires me to work odd hours, occasional overnights, occasional holidays ect. When I first took the job, I thought it would be so difficult, but it really hasn't been. My family has really stepped up to help, my boyfriend watches them sometimes too. You said you have no friends or family around you, but you could make friends. You can hire occasional babysitters, don't have to go all out on an au pair, but hey if you think that's what you need, then do that. Since you'd have to move, why not try and find like a roomate who instead of paying rent, babysits your son? I strongly believe in that cliche "where there's a will, there's a way". Think back to when you were pregnant, weren't you scared, didn't you think taking care of a baby on your own would be impossible? but you found a way. As far as working as a nurse, there's so many different types of nursing jobs out there. Nurses who work in doctor's offices or schools never have to work evenings/weekends/overnights. Yes, if you work in a hospital or nursing home you may need to work some holidays. I've had to work some holidays, but I don't have to work the whole day. You might end up working an 8-4 shift on X-mas, well you're still home for dinner, or if it's a 4pm-midnight shift then you'd be there for X-mas morning and afternoon. Or his birthday, well most people aren't home the entire day on their kids b-day. Parents work, kids go to school, they celebrate at dinnertime, have a party on the weekend before or after. I don't think these are problems that should make you reconsider a career in nursing altogether.
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I'm a single mum of two children age 2 and 4. I am also a nurse. I work for a private company now, 3 days a week, 8am-6pm. I get plenty of time with my children, reading bedtime stories to them on my work days is always a lovely way to end my day. I absolutely love my job, I give chemo and other IV therapies to patients in their own homes. I do have to be on call on a regular basis, but have never been called out yet. I have a fantastic childminder, so I'm very lucky in that respect. Have you considered sharing a nanny or au pair with another single mum? You could ask at the college if they have a nursery, or they may know of one. There is always a solution! Don't give up your dreams of becoming a nurse! Its the best and most rewarding job in the world and I love it! Good luck!
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Ok, I'm a single mum as the title says, my son is 18 months old and I'm 21, his dad isn't involved, and we're English. When he was born, I applied to study nursing in London (I live about two hours away so we'd move). To my amazement I was given an unconditional offer at one of the two top places in the country to do it. I ended up deferring that year as it was looking difficult to start it all then with my son so young. Then by the end of last year things were looking pretty impossible. I'd be working irregular shifts, including the odd very occasional nightshift, leading to massive childcare problems, I think the only way I could do it was if I had an au pair, which would mean needing an extra room which I don't know if I could afford. I'd be working many hours a day and then coming home and having to do more work and I was worrying I'd get no time with my son. And I'd be in London, and although it's my dream to move away and start a new life elsewhere and this is probably my only opportunity, the fact that I have a baby and no friends or family around there is a bit nervewracking. So I ended up declining my place, and now I'm studying an Open University degree in history from home, which is ok but not particularly inspiring if I'm honest, and I still live with my dad which is driving me slowly insane. However now they've been sending me welcome letters and I've just had an answerphone message asking if I'm still going to be attending in September, so they have obviously neglected to record the fact that I've withdrawn, so it feels like I've been given another opportunity. I need to ring back today or tomorrow and let them know and I just don't know what to do. Everything seems to be pointing against me doing it, but it just feels like I'm turning down a massive opportunity to study somewhere really good and be directed straight into a stable career. And this is my last chance, because in future years they are getting rid of the diploma in nursing, and I don't have the qualifications to get onto the degree. However I would not sacrifice my relationship with my son for anything in the world. But I really don't know if it's going to be as bad as I'm imagining. I also think that, even when I'm done studying, working as a nurse and being a single mother is going to mean I'm missing a lot of things for my son. His birthday is 3 days after Christmas so statistically I would miss at least one of these occasions every year, for example, and I hate the thought of him being stuck with relatives without me. Has anybody done this, or been close to anybody who has? Be completely honest with me - is it a viable option for a single parent, both the studying and the actual career? Or do I need to say goodbye to it and keep doing what I'm doing now?
Parenting - 3 Answers
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I have a friend who went off to university and her daughter was around 10 months. No I'm not going to sit here and say it was easy to do because she also had many childcare issues. But you know what. Go for the open even at least. See what your options are. Also you could start looking around for childcare. You may be able to apply for tax credits to help towards childcare costs. But whats the harm in going to the open evening? You never know. This could be the opportunity you needed.
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I'm also a single mom and I think you should totally do this or you will forever regret it. I got pregnant with TWINS in my 1st year of college, gave birth to them 1 week after exams, went back for second year when they were 4 months old, graduated, worked for a year or so, went back to college for a different diploma when they were 2.5 years old, graduated a year later. I also work in a field that requires me to work odd hours, occasional overnights, occasional holidays ect. When I first took the job, I thought it would be so difficult, but it really hasn't been. My family has really stepped up to help, my boyfriend watches them sometimes too. You said you have no friends or family around you, but you could make friends. You can hire occasional babysitters, don't have to go all out on an au pair, but hey if you think that's what you need, then do that. Since you'd have to move, why not try and find like a roomate who instead of paying rent, babysits your son? I strongly believe in that cliche "where there's a will, there's a way". Think back to when you were pregnant, weren't you scared, didn't you think taking care of a baby on your own would be impossible? but you found a way. As far as working as a nurse, there's so many different types of nursing jobs out there. Nurses who work in doctor's offices or schools never have to work evenings/weekends/overnights. Yes, if you work in a hospital or nursing home you may need to work some holidays. I've had to work some holidays, but I don't have to work the whole day. You might end up working an 8-4 shift on X-mas, well you're still home for dinner, or if it's a 4pm-midnight shift then you'd be there for X-mas morning and afternoon. Or his birthday, well most people aren't home the entire day on their kids b-day. Parents work, kids go to school, they celebrate at dinnertime, have a party on the weekend before or after. I don't think these are problems that should make you reconsider a career in nursing altogether.
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I'm a single mum of two children age 2 and 4. I am also a nurse. I work for a private company now, 3 days a week, 8am-6pm. I get plenty of time with my children, reading bedtime stories to them on my work days is always a lovely way to end my day. I absolutely love my job, I give chemo and other IV therapies to patients in their own homes. I do have to be on call on a regular basis, but have never been called out yet. I have a fantastic childminder, so I'm very lucky in that respect. Have you considered sharing a nanny or au pair with another single mum? You could ask at the college if they have a nursery, or they may know of one. There is always a solution! Don't give up your dreams of becoming a nurse! Its the best and most rewarding job in the world and I love it! Good luck!
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Monday, October 7, 2013
How do I get a nursing job in London as a newly graduate RN
How do I get a nursing job in London as a newly graduate RN?
I am a newly graduating nurse with a RN license, who wants to live in London, England (yes I know about the lower pay grade for RNs....) I have dual citizenship in America and Jamaica, which was a british colony. Would I need sponsorship and how would I go about it? would I have to register with a travel nurse agency?
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I'd get an idea of the number of open jobs there are in London. A good job search for England that lists all the open jobs is 'http://www.jobs-in-registered-nursing.com/nursing-jobs/uk-nursing-jobs/index.php. Sponsorship is the easiest way to go about this. You will need to get your license by passing an examination. You can find more information about it here: http://www.my-nursing-career.com/
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You need two years of hands-on experience from a good hospital. Try working for two years from where you are. Then after that you could go to London. It's good to have referrals.
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I am a newly graduating nurse with a RN license, who wants to live in London, England (yes I know about the lower pay grade for RNs....) I have dual citizenship in America and Jamaica, which was a british colony. Would I need sponsorship and how would I go about it? would I have to register with a travel nurse agency?
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I'd get an idea of the number of open jobs there are in London. A good job search for England that lists all the open jobs is 'http://www.jobs-in-registered-nursing.com/nursing-jobs/uk-nursing-jobs/index.php. Sponsorship is the easiest way to go about this. You will need to get your license by passing an examination. You can find more information about it here: http://www.my-nursing-career.com/
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You need two years of hands-on experience from a good hospital. Try working for two years from where you are. Then after that you could go to London. It's good to have referrals.
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Tuesday, October 1, 2013
What is a big city live and raise a family in Vancouver, Canada and surrounding areas
What is a big city live and raise a family in Vancouver, Canada and surrounding areas?
I really wanted to move to London from St. Louis, MO but my fiance isn't having it. We have a daughter and by the time we will be ready to move she'll be around 5. I want to live in a big city with some type of hussle and bussle. But I also want to consider living somewhere safe that has decent schools for her to go to. I will have my nursing degree and he has 9 years experience in Food and resturant management. Any considerations? Please... I need enough time to plan.
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Your degree may not be valid in Canada But Vancouver is great mild climate great people . If you like the out doors start packing now. The olympics are comming in 2010 . Lots of work now. medicare for everyone About a hundred dollars for a family. Hospital free . Bus passes tax deductable . Go to hellobc and tourismvancouver they have free giudes to mail
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Is that London, England or London, Ontario you were interested in, because England is so expensive that I don't know how anyone can afford to live there (maybe that will make you feel better since your fiance says no way). As far as moving to Canada, instead of look at locations, maybe start by looking at what you would require as far as immigration for your family. Check out what you would require as far as being able to use your nursing degree (likely upgrading and testing to qualify). I know many nurses who have left Canada for the USA because they were offered a lot more money to work there, and the Canadian nursing qualification is considered better than the US. Relocating between our 2 countries and being able to earn a living is not the easiest thing to do and takes a lot of patience and time with the bureaucratic process.
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Maple Ridge is made for the family life. Check it out.
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i love new westminster, we have all kinds of fairs, festivals, celebrations, and every thing. we also have a waterfront quay, that has fireworks on holidays and special events. Its a great place has great history and schools. and some really nice housing. Its safe and has its own fire station, police force, and ambulance system and hospitals. Before Victoria, we were also the capital of the province! there are parts of New Westminster that are busy and other parts that are quiet and have beautiful housing. we also have a few great parks, my favourite is Queens park it has a spray park, petting zoo and little kids park and a big kids park, there is also a concession open in the summer. we have lots of recreation. two swimming pools, one indoor and one outdoor open in the summer. We are also very close to Vancouver which is very nice.
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vancouver is a metro city.... are you confused and wondering about what cities are in the province of brittish columbia aka bc? the greater vancouver area consists of many cities.... it's pretty much one nonstop city from the foothills of the mountains right down to the ocean
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I really wanted to move to London from St. Louis, MO but my fiance isn't having it. We have a daughter and by the time we will be ready to move she'll be around 5. I want to live in a big city with some type of hussle and bussle. But I also want to consider living somewhere safe that has decent schools for her to go to. I will have my nursing degree and he has 9 years experience in Food and resturant management. Any considerations? Please... I need enough time to plan.
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Your degree may not be valid in Canada But Vancouver is great mild climate great people . If you like the out doors start packing now. The olympics are comming in 2010 . Lots of work now. medicare for everyone About a hundred dollars for a family. Hospital free . Bus passes tax deductable . Go to hellobc and tourismvancouver they have free giudes to mail
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Is that London, England or London, Ontario you were interested in, because England is so expensive that I don't know how anyone can afford to live there (maybe that will make you feel better since your fiance says no way). As far as moving to Canada, instead of look at locations, maybe start by looking at what you would require as far as immigration for your family. Check out what you would require as far as being able to use your nursing degree (likely upgrading and testing to qualify). I know many nurses who have left Canada for the USA because they were offered a lot more money to work there, and the Canadian nursing qualification is considered better than the US. Relocating between our 2 countries and being able to earn a living is not the easiest thing to do and takes a lot of patience and time with the bureaucratic process.
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Maple Ridge is made for the family life. Check it out.
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i love new westminster, we have all kinds of fairs, festivals, celebrations, and every thing. we also have a waterfront quay, that has fireworks on holidays and special events. Its a great place has great history and schools. and some really nice housing. Its safe and has its own fire station, police force, and ambulance system and hospitals. Before Victoria, we were also the capital of the province! there are parts of New Westminster that are busy and other parts that are quiet and have beautiful housing. we also have a few great parks, my favourite is Queens park it has a spray park, petting zoo and little kids park and a big kids park, there is also a concession open in the summer. we have lots of recreation. two swimming pools, one indoor and one outdoor open in the summer. We are also very close to Vancouver which is very nice.
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vancouver is a metro city.... are you confused and wondering about what cities are in the province of brittish columbia aka bc? the greater vancouver area consists of many cities.... it's pretty much one nonstop city from the foothills of the mountains right down to the ocean
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