Desperate... please help?????????
hey guys: i turn 28 next week and let's just say i'm going through a panicking stage.... i don't have a husband, kids or a career that i love!, but have a degree and never even used it because it's so tight in the job market these days.. so right now, i work as a receptionist and get paid a lot less than i should be getting! i spend most of my time trying to complete a novel i've been working on for the past two years that i intend to turn into a play or movie! my parents have told me they're disappointed with how i've turned out and that my two sisters are doing better than me... one is a nurse and the other a debt collector, but they still live at home in london. i didn't want to grow old living with my parents, so i moved to new york.. while here i've made wonderful friends and even got married, but it never worked out.. so now, i'm looking for a good man and career, but can't help feeling like a looser... maybe i am.. how do i start making my life over at 28?
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1 :
stop doing all of the things you used to do. Just do new things. Never travel the same roads twice.
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some people just get a late start. Sounds like you are stagnating where you are...a change of scenery to a place where your education and skills can be put to work might be the right answer for you. Start searching monster and job boards for positions (wherever- all over the world) that you qualify for and then research the areas and figure out if you would like to live there. Keep in mind that you will be making more money and will be able to travel to see your friends and your family. I don't know what you do, but I am sure there is a place in need of your skills in an area that is not saturated with people who have the same qualifications as you do. Marriage can come later and children, well you're never too old... Many blessings
3 :
WHY? I mean, is there a certain age you MUST complete this by ? We sure rush into relationships and a whole lot of other things that don't always work as planned, maybe because we act to fast and don't think.
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First, 28 and in New York, you have so much opportunity. Life in New York begins around 30. First, try and find a job in your field. It is OK to be doing your current job to make ends meat, but try and put that degree into use. That is important. Second, parents are parents. What matters is that you "did it your way". Three, writting a book does not bring riches nor does it excuse for any failings. I have been writting for years and have at minimum 5 projects. Use your writting as a side project or hobby. Four, as for the dating scene in New York, well, It's New York. Much to offer if you look in the right places. The right places will depend on your personality. Good Luck
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The key for you is to get your parents out of your head. They have pounded into your head that you are a loser - you have internalized it and it is now a part of you. You must get rid of that belief today! You are a loser only when you stop trying. Therefore, as long as you choose not to quit, you will not be a loser. You must decide for yourself what you want for your life - no one else, not your parents or your friends can decide that for you. What ever you want out of life, no matter how big or how small, go for it. Find out what it is you love and pursue it with passion. Make a plan; set attainable goals; reward yourself; and make it happen.
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I can't believe your parents said they are disappointed in you! Hopefully you have enough confidence not to let that bring you down. Personally, I think you are doing better than your sisters, considering they are still living at home! You sound like a courageous, smart woman with many talents who has a lot going for her- you just have to figure out what you want and be determined enough to go for it. Focus on what you want to do with your life, while being open-minded, and the rest will fall into place. Sometimes we all feel like we are running out of time for one reason or another, but we have to try our best not to obsess, b/c it doesn't do anyone any good. Hope this helps, and good luck with everything!
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